We are in conversation with ourselves every single minute of every single day. We tell ourselves stories all the time. The stories will circle around what we think of ourselves and others, what we look like, how our response to a particular situation could have been different, how we could have behaved differently, maybe used different words and so on...

 

Much of the time the things we say to ourselves are deeply judgemental. Some of these judgements make themselves known through our judgement of others. And to make matters worse, the thoughts come with feelings, sometimes deep and very uncomfortable feelings.

The kind of feeling that we will want to push away because they feel so constricting and heavy. We like feelings that are expansive and light, we don't like the others. Wanting to avoid them is an understandable response, but unfortunately bypassing their message will often lead to furthering their reach.

 

I believe that perception is the key to everything, but most especially our healing. Every situation we encounter gives us the possibility of seeing things differently. Are we seeing our experience from a place of limitation, or abundance? Does it feel bad or does it feel good? The former feels constricted and a total contrast to what we would actually like life to feel like.

The aim for most people is to get to a point where feeling free from the pain of limitation is their most experienced state. We have to identify limiting beliefs to be able to change them. The only way to identify them is by seeing them. Spiritual bypassing doesn't exist on my watch! Pin pointing limiting beliefs can be as simple as discovering through a conflict that happened as recently as yesterday.

 

Our lives are made up of patterns that we are not even aware we are creating. In conversation we would begin to map an understanding of the insights the experience offered through the individuals involved, the emotions that surface and thoughts heard. Often we would be lead back to a significant childhood event which we would be able to touch on together and through this process begin to map the pattern and unpick the stories that have lead you to where you are today. This process will help you connect to your body and all the wisdom that lies within. It will often reveal what life is prompting you to recognise within yourself giving you the insight and the ability to change what you no longer wish to carry.

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The process uncovers blocks that prevent you from reaching your full potential. The subconscious mind accounts for approximately 95% of our behaviour. Our subconscious processes information much faster than our conscious mind. In session I may use PSYCH-k™ which provides a simple and effective method to observe and transform limiting beliefs, AMDR 'Applied Memory Deconsolidation and Reconsolidation', providing a flexible approach effective in the treatment of overcoming traumatic experiences, dealing with chronic pain, PTSD and anxiety and also a form of conscious meditation that allows you to connect with parts of you that have been yearning for your presence. With particular emphasis on resourcing and becoming familiar with the ILOC model, working in this way helps the body come back into balance.